Yes, I know…I missed the Friday Wrap-Up, and I was sadly unprepared for this week’s Monday New Fiction blog.
That said, there just weren’t enough hours in any of my days this last few days since I last posted.
Tonight’s blog, however, is politically motivated, which is actually kind of bizarre for me, because seriously? I don’t DO politics.
Not only do I not do politics? I shy away from political discussions and will literally run the other way to keep from being involved. My parents used to tell me that there were three things one did not discuss in mixed company…Religion, politics, and something else…Might have been sex, but you know what? I threw that particular item out the window, as it IS one of my favorite subjects.
So without further ado? Let’s get on to my rant du jour, shall we?
If you live in the great state of North Carolina, then you are either a new resident, blind, deaf, or all of the above, if you are over 18 and have not heard about the Marriage Ammendment aka Amendment 1. A News & Observer Q&A is quoted as follows:
“North Carolina has a law defining marriage as between a man and a woman. How would a constitutional amendment change the law?
Current law defines “a valid and sufficient marriage” as the union of a “male and female person.” The language in the constitutional amendment says, “Marriage between one man and one woman is the only domestic legal union that shall be valid or recognized in this state.” The extra wording in the amendment makes it farther-reaching, critics say, banning domestic partnerships and civil unions.”
So what might my problem with this, you may be asking? It’s the part that bans domestic partnerships and civil unions.
I will tell you. While I’m not what you might call bleeding heart liberal, I am also not the most up tight right wing conservative you have ever met, either. I consider myself something of a middle of the road Independent, if you must know.
Why do I have an issue with Amendment One? Because it infringes on anyone involved in a domestic partnership, whether gay or straight. Now out of the gate, let us be clear that I have absolutely NO problem with same sex relationships in any way, shape, or form, which will probably make me very unpopular with my uber conservative friends, and that’s ok. Love me or leave me. I is who I is. The heart wants what the heart wants, and I am a firm believer in the phrase, “God doesn’t make junk.”
Now, let’s get down to brass tacks, shall we?
Let’s say you and your beloved, who is your significant other, have been together for many years. He or she gets sick. The family never really liked you, anyway. You want to see him or her. They can keep you away from that hospital room. You may or may not have been insured through your SO’s employer…if something happens to your SO and you were together for a very long time, do you think you will get survivor benefits? I’m betting not.
I’m not going to go on and on and on about this, because I think I have made my point, but I am going to say that I saw a show on HBO some many years back, called “If These Walls Could Talk 2” and it pertained to lesbian couples, and one story that stuck out to me was the one where the elderly women had been living together in a domestic partnership and their home belonged to one of them. The home owner took a fall and died. The partner was basically shit out of luck, because the family of the deceased let her collect her items in a box and ran her out of town on a rail. It sucked. It pissed me off. I mean REALLY pissed me off. That said, I found parts one and two on youtube, so please watch and be as pissed as I was the first time I saw this, and then let your conscience be your guide, because this doesn’t have to happen. To ANYONE.
If you are in a partnership and have been so for many years, then who is our government to say you can’t receive death benefits?
Why does it matter?
What happens to my friend, “A,” who has been in a partnership with her man, “G,” if he gets sick or worse? They’re not married. Why does she have no rights? It’s NOT fair…
For another take on this, please visit Bain Waves. Dan said this so much better than I ever could!
If you have an empathetic bone in your body, vote NO on the Marriage Amendment, huh?